They will know us by our love


From John 13:35 “By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” What kind of love was Jesus Christ talking about? He wasn‘t talking about physical love. If you pray deeply for the wisdom of the Holy Spirit, you will understand that the love the creator was talking about is the Choice of loving his disciples must show for each other. Wait Mr. J, you mean he wasn’t talking about emotional love? If you read the Merriam-Webster definition of love, you get (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties maternal love for a child (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (2) :the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration and (3) :
warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion. You can love anything, cars, money women/men, material goods, power, glory, pride etc. But if you’re thinking of love as just a neurological response of the body, then your missing the whole point of what Love is.

What is true love? We will look at a married couple. When you are dating someone, your excited because you really like this person. You think they are attractive to you. Maybe they do something you like and enjoy. Maybe you like the fact their different then you. How they carry themselves or maybe because you enjoy how aggressive and assertive they are. Then after spending enough time with each other, you begin to wonder if this “person” is the one you want to share yourself with. Maybe you feel that this is a “suitable” partner and want to be together. After months, maybe years of planning you decide to get married. You feel so many emotions during this 24hr period. You can’t sleep, feel nervous, just excited, lost for words, you know the drill, if you been married. Then you have a honeymoon, wither it be Hawaii or someplace exotic or maybe you travel somewhere local and just spend time together. You feel like you’re on top of the world. You might even feel “invincible”. But after the first two years of not trying to fight or argue or get in each other’s way, you notice something has changed. You look at your spouse, and you no longer see that sparkle in their eyes. In fact, maybe you notice they have really bad habits you don’t like. Maybe they do little things that just get under your skin or urek you. Maybe you finally notice there a terrible communicator, or maybe they snore too much, drink to much soda. Hates cleaning the restroom, folding the laundry, etc. They once “heavenly feeling is gone now” maybe that “glowing luster” is long gone and see you the person for who they really are. A priest once told me, that when you get married, you have to put on a spiritual “eye patch” Because you are now taking in new “baggage from your spouse. Whatever good you see in them, you are also taking in the evil. Why? Because of our fallen human nature. Nobody is prefect.

So, you ask yourself, how does a married couple relate to me? Simple answer really. We can’t trust our feelings, because it is always changing. It is always evolving and adopting. We can like one thing and then be tried of it. It is how our mind processes events our life events that determine how we carry ourselves forward. Gandhi said, “I’d be a Christian if it were not for the Christians.'” Why would he say that? Because he read about Jesus and liked what he read and wanted to see for himself what Christianity was all about. He wasn’t allowed to enter the Church in Calcutta because he wasn’t white or a High Caste Hindu. I believe the Lord was touching his heart, but his “representative” were poor examples. They didn’t reflect his words or his teaching by their example. They allow the influence of the world cloud their mind and their judgement. Do we do that still? Is this still going on in the world? Unfortunately, yes. We keep telling other, hey brother/sister you got a “splinter” in their eyes, when worse, most of us have a Redwood tree in both our eyes. We always act on feelings and never reason. The devil can misuse your own feeling to do evil. Pretend you’re a guy and you say to your friends” I love this girl because we had sex” okay so after the 5th or 6th time you feel, bored and maybe the “love is not their and breakup and find another girl. You keep going on like this until you just end up alone in the end because you feel empty. Your confused physical actions and emotional into something that is supposed to be pure and loving. The devil is a “divider in chief” and he will twist every turn and move and way of your thinking because he wants to destroy love. He already hates you because God created and loves you.

How do people stayed married for 40, 50 or 70 years together? Simple answer, they Choose to love. They make the conscience decision everyday to love each other. They are willing to forgive and help each other overcome their daily faults and boost each other up. They don’t break each other down with nasty, terrible words. (I’m not saying they don’t argue) everyone argues from time to time, but they don’t let it go to the point they become disrespectful to each other. Once you start calling each other the B-word and F-bombs are being dropped frequently, then it’s safe to say that respect has been thrown out the window. Forgiveness, love and sacrifice go hand in hand. St Paul teaches in 1 Corinthaians 13:1-13 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful” We Must choose it every day. Even if our “neighbor’s” probably don’t deserve it, it’s still our responsibility to show what a disciple of Jesus should be. If a person who is not Christian or maybe who doesn’t believe in God, shows their humanity by being a good person and making good choices, then how much more as Christian’s should we be going out into the world. If a person knows you’re not being caring, then they are not going to gravitate towards you. But if you show someone how sincere you are and are consistent with your decision in helping someone or show an act of kindness, they will remember that part in their memories. We are being watched by our children, our families and society. What we do and what we fail to do are being weighed on us every second of every day. The road to Heaven is narrow and the road to hell is wide. Matthew 7:13-14. If we are always striving to be prefect, then we must choose to do God’s work every day. No matter how small the task, we all have a choice to make, if we did exercise our full potential, we would reduce the amount of wars and death in the world. We would have more people in our care because we are “stewards or caretakers” for Christ. Let is always ask God the Holy Spirit to guild us and nurture us. Then and only then, they will know us by our love!


Aaron J

5 Comments on “They will know us by our love”

  1. Marriage is hard, marriage is the image of God and us. Yes, we need to chose to love because in marriage there are so many reasons to not love your spouse.


    • You’re very right Katiedash. Because of the Free will gift that God has given to us. We must work to become the very best that our spouse expects of us. I like to think of marriage as a basketball team. Yes you can have “one” star player. But one player can’t face the opposite team alone. He needs the help of his teammates and in return, they help him. Providing for your marriage physically, emotionally and spiritually. You must learn to balance your time. When we put God first, then he will help us put time into our marriage. Marriage is a 24/7 duty. We must ask Jesus for his grace and mercy to obtain the discipline in our marriage. We also ask the Holy Spirit to quiet our minds, so we can hear the word of God in our heart and be able to hear his teachings on how to be fruitful with our families. Thank you for your comments!

      Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: